“THINK BIG”
Bet we’ve all heard that before. It drones on. A phrase that after such repetition in our world has lost its meaning.
Have you noticed how you don’t even take in certain phrases that are so over used? It’s more of a cluster of sounds than a string of words with true meaning
”Live, Laugh, Love”
”Everything happens for a reason”
”YOLO”
”Think big” has a lot of layers to it though, when you take a chance to actually digest it. This came to my mind the other day as I was listening to the Talk Easy episode with Pedro Pascal. What stood out the most about his story is the way he ruthlessly held his vision.
You should listen to the episode for yourself..But to summarize, this man has been hacking away at his dream since youth. He had a “big break” in his early 20’s but after tragically losing his mother, faced a lull in his career that lasted over a decade. Only until nearly the age of 40 did his career finally take off.
Now more than ever, we want shit..immediately. I’m so guilty of this myself.
Thanks to the concept of instant gratification, our attention span for nearly everything is stunted. I’ve seen it especially in how I view my own goals and dreams. Instant gratification is something we’re lucky enough to have access to as humans living in 2023. Same-day Amazon orders..gaining 100k followers overnight..food from any restaurant delivered to our doorstep..the internet!
I’ve noticed in the past few years that the “goals” I’d set for myself were always things I wanted to fulfill within 1 year MAX. Usually more like, by the next month or quarter. ~~Instant manifestations~~ and ~~quantum leaps~~ felt like the only way to achieve these next levels. Now I see that’s not the case. It’s an exhausting cycle that always left me feeling like a failure.
What about the long game? The slow burn of a dream can be reaaaallly..sensual?..in a way? The dance with a dream. That’s the real shit.
I appreciate the stories of people like Pedro, because I see the reflection of that long winding journey in my own life. Up and down. On and off. I’ve always had this greater vision. It’s a big one. And it’s one I won’t let go of, but know it won’t be instant. I’m okay with letting it simmer.
To me, the dreams worth having aren’t ones that will simply unfold upon their birth in your mind.
What we deeply desire might not come to us this year. Or next year. Or the year after that. And we can’t make that mean anything about us. So long as you’re taking steps, big or small, each day toward your destiny — so it shall be and so it is. Speaking of over-used quotes “It’s about the journey, not the destination” — right?
A dream is a destiny you feel called to without knowing (or caring) what’s at the end.
So enough is enough. No more settling for cheap dreams, because baby the ones you were born with are solid gold.
Cheap dreams, as I like to call them, are ones that we as individuals feel the need to fulfill based on social pressures, ones that we think others will see value in..i.e. blowing up on social media. Goals that involve reaching some shocking number without yielding any concrete impact in your life. Or a cheap goal can be one that’s just too damn small in comparison of what you’re truly capable of.
I know everyone is different, but since reframing my goals as life-long destinies and not as boxes to be checked off every month, quarter, or year….I simply feel happier.
Thanks for dreaming with me <3
ily,
lily